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not have felt damaged by my interactions or relationship, i have been insensitive and not willing <br /> to take responsibility for the impact of my actions. <br /> In particular, I have been unaware that my power, privilege and status led people to trust me and <br /> surrender to me. I recognize that now. Differences in power, age, gender and so on do <br /> matter. While I wish these differences didn't matter and we could all just be adult human beings <br /> and responsible for our choices and sexuality, it does matter. It's up to me to make sure that my <br /> power, privilege and status doesn't lead someone to surrender to me in the hopes that I know <br /> what I am doing. I don't always know what I'm doing and my choices are impacted by my <br /> subconsciousness, my wounding and my desires. <br /> The structural imbalances of power must be changed. Men, and white men in particular, hold an <br /> inordinate amount of legal, financial and sexual power. Just because I don't want to support the <br /> patriarchy doesn't mean I don't benefit from it. While I have attempted to be of service, it's vital <br /> that I do my part in creating a post-patriarchal world. So that's why i am transferring ownership <br /> of the Hawaii Tantra Festival to a woman as well as creating a new structure for Lolia which will <br /> have a Foundation Board with a majority of women and women-led staff. <br /> I am open to feedback and suggestions about the direction of Lolia. I am dedicated to creating a <br /> space that is driven by a community-in-service to personal growth and development. We have a <br /> mission statement which will be edited by the Board over time and executed by the staff. If you <br /> want to support please give your feedback. <br /> I am not a guru nor have I claimed any esoteric powers of perception or skill in helping others. I <br /> pray that everyone finds healing, love and empowers themselves. Mahalo nui loa. <br /> I hope the Commission is as troubled by this as the community has been. Here is man who is <br /> claiming to give up his "patriarchal" power because it seems he doesn't trust himself with that <br /> power. But in reality he hasn't given up much. He still owns it. We don't have a financial <br /> analysis to see if there is a true independence. What if he changes his mind? Does he still live <br /> there? We don't know the answers and the PD report has not helped us in this regard either. <br /> Robert may have changed. We don't know. We believe he lied to us in the last week regarding <br /> the Snuggle Party at subject TMK in order to get this permit. But him speaking out for the event <br /> suggests he still has a prominent role in HER. So we, many member of the community, cannot <br /> trust him and we kindly suggest that the Commission should not either. Even if he has largely <br /> changed who wants accountability for any recidivism? But sadly it doesn't end here either. <br /> This is a FB post from Violet L Alexander on April 26, 2017 <br /> cw: sexual assault, community un-accountability, white people, new age community <br /> Shoutout to Robert Silber who approached me to "verify to veracity of the claims" <br /> against my rapist. He started off by lying to me about why he was contacting me, <br /> saying it was for a friend rather than as a community appointed verifier of survivor <br /> claims (WTF). <br />